I did a poll What is the #1 frustrating thing about wearing your waves or curls?
- Second-day hair
- Flat/no volume
I will give you some valuable tips to help with each of these. But not before we talk about your mindset. What I”d like for you to go away from this with is a Mindshift.
Self-acceptance and embracing what is.
Go ahead and say it out loud with me.
When we say things out loud, it moves from the back of the head to the front.
Amigdala is the part of the brain that is responsible for the fight or flight.
This rewires pathways. Just ask my therapist.
Yes, I am nerdy like that.
Frizz is natural. It is normal, especially in a more humid climate.
If you have wavy, curly hair it will appear like it’s so much more because you haven’t smoothed it all out with a heat source. But MOST people have it.
I’d like to ask 2 questions
- Did you feel like you had to worry about frizz as much when you use to blow out or flat iron or wand your hair?
- Why do you feel like you cannot use any heat source, such as a wand, to help you with the frizz?
Here are some tips to fight frizz.
- Drizzle rinse/leave in more conditioner. (This won’t be a problem if you are properly hydrating AND washing…not co-washing your hair.)
- Glaze your gel onto every single surface. Make sure you are covering all areas with an open hand/like frosting a cake method before scrunching.
- Try doubling up on product application. Rake through product, fully saturating in sections, then dip head back under the showerhead to clump, 1 second. Then glaze on TOP of that, creating a shield or cast. (you can use hairspray to really set/hold)
- Stop touching it while it’s wet. Wait until it’s at least 80% dry.
- Be gentle with the diffuser while it’s setting. After diffusing, you can smooth the product lightly over the hair to lay down any little fuzzies that happen as a result of diffusing.
- When breaking up the gel cast, make sure you lightly scrunch it open so as to not disrupt the curl/wave clumps.
And what might possibly be the #1 tip I have for fighting frizz….
DON’T EXPECT A LOT OF VOLUME IF YOU DON’T WANT ANY FRIZZ.
I”d like to know if your hair was consistent and predictable when you wore it straight/blown out?
I have a client who is a self-described type A personality.
She washes every day.
She gel cast like a pro (I’ve had her do demo’s in-salon)
She sits under a dryer every morning.
She still tells me that sometimes she has to use a wand on a few pieces because it’s never quite right and will point out the “wonky” ones.
Let’s just sit with this.
Does this make you want to “give up”?
SECOND DAY HAIR
First of all, it’s a myth.
Did you get second-day hair when you wore it straight/blown out?
What are some of your expectations on the second day?
How much time are you willing to invest on the second day compared to when you were wearing it straight/blown out?
Second-day Hair Tips:
- Build a stronger holding cast on Day 1 wash day.
- Leave it curl controlled on Day 1. Do not shake it out to make it big. Leave it in its clumps.
- Sleep with it covered/wrapped if you have high-density textured coily hair. Sleep with it piled high if you have fine-textured hair, waves or curls.
- Sleep with a head bonnet or silk/satin pillowcase.
- Glaze product over hair to tame any frizzies. Rescrunch if necessary. You can also use a water/ water/conditioner combo.
- Use any volumizers after you get your curl retention set. Dry shampoo, texturizing sprays, etc.
The more wet you get it, the better the refresh. Because water is magic.
Dunk half into the sink so the roots don’t get wet (they take the longest to dry)
If possible, build a routine to extend your days
I wash day 1.
I can usually pull off a quick smoothing of frizz/scrunch kinda day 2.
Day 3 is always half up/half down…because I get greasy at my roots
Day 4 is a messy bun or ponytail or hat.
I’m just gonna throw this out there…what if you touched up with a wand to extend the days? Yikes. Just a thought.
Welcome to my world.
This has been and continues to be my biggest challenge in self-acceptance and embracing what is.
Choose something else that you can love about your hair.
I’ve chosen to have it long since I can’t have it big.
Yesterday, I showed a client how to love how clumpy and curly she can have it since she can’t have it big.
What else can you love about your hair if you can’t have it big?
Say this with me
THERE IS NO CUT OR MAGIC PRODUCT THAT WILL MAKE MY HAIR AS BIG AS THE INSTAGRAM/PINTEREST MODELS.
Let that sink in.
Just sit with it.
Cry if you need to.
I’m here for it.
TIPS FOR VOLUME
- Stop co-washing and using weird stuff. Just use a sulfate-free shampoo.
- Stop using heavy conditioners that come in a tub because you believe your hair is so dry.
- Use less conditioner. If you use a lot, make sure you rinse a lot out.
- Marry conditioner with water so you don’t have to use as much. This is about really learning hydration
- Concentrate conditioner on the ends to midshaft. Barely, if any on the scalp.
- Try applying a volumizer in a scrunching method before you build a gel cast. Usually, this is a foam..
- Build cast, scrunch with a towel, then scrunch in more gel
- Diffuse. Stop air-drying if you want big hair. Just diffuse.
- Dry lift, dry shampoo, volumizing spray, texturizing spray
And my #1 tip for Volume
GET REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH FRIZZ.